Many courts, lawyers and caseworkers use a rough set of 10 "rights" to educate parents about how to treat their children during custody disputes. They include the right:

• Not to be asked to choose sides
• Not to be told the nasty details of legal proceedings
• Not to be told "bad things" about the other parent
• To have privacy when talking to the other parent
• Not to be quizzed about the other parent
• Not to be used as a messenger between parents
• Not to be a parent’s legal confidant
• To express their feelings and to choose not to express certain feelings
• To be shielded from parental "warfare"
• Not to feel guilty for loving both parents